I have been pondering the nature of friendship recently,
probably because I have been watching Doctor Who again. Having moved a fair few times since my
mid-teens, I have had to make new friends fairly often, and have had
friendships that seemed deep and intense at the time, but turned out to be
ethereal and fleeting in the grand scheme of things.
I was discussing childhood friendships with my husband, as
he has not really kept in touch with any of his childhood friends, and I
have. I miss my friends when I leave,
but thanks to the wonder of modern technology, have not lost really touch with
them. In some cases I have re-discovered
some old friendships, which has been very nice, as I love to hear how well the
lives of people I like have turned out.
I thought about the people I considered good friends through
my childhood and teens, and if I am honest, although I love them all dearly, I
don’t think there was ever one person I felt was a “best friend”. I never really felt completely part of one
group (as I have mentioned in older posts), or attached to one person above all
others.
Since moving far, far away I have had a couple of old
friends tell me how much they admired me as a teen, which was both flattering
and surprising, as it came from people I admired and never thought would be
truly worthy of being considered a friend of.
I was thinking, if these people admired me and I was
unaware, maybe there are other friends out there who know me better than I
thought.
I have a bit of a Hollywood
ideal of what a “best friend” should be, so I wonder, would anyone know these
things about me, or am I dreaming…
What is my favourite colour?
Who was my “first love”?
What is my favourite sort of music?
What is my favourite film of all time?
What is the best thing to buy me for Christmas?
What is my favourite alcoholic drink?
What is the most embarrassing thing I have ever done?
I don’t think I could answer all these questions correctly
for any of my old friends and definitely not for any new ones yet, but although
I am sad for not having that sort of sisterly closeness with one person, I am
glad to have the wonderful friends I do have, and hope to make many more.
1 comment:
thats too true. I have one friend Ive knowen since I was seven and I cant answer all those basic questions. But having said that, I know about the family relationships and the trials they bring,the fears about and hopes about the futeure, when to been mean and tell her to harden up and when to just nod and hug her. Even some newer friends I almost no that well. arent those the important things you need to know?
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